The Taming of the

You.

Psychologists sometimes discuss the risks associated with referring to yourself in the 3rd person. It’s not a good sign if when you talk about yourself you say things like: She is at work on her blog right now. But they never talk about referring to yourself in the 2nd person. I often refer to myself as You. At least in my head or when what’s in my head becomes a journal entry.

You MUST submit your taxes this week. You really SHOULD figure out a way to go through your bills at least once a month.

That sort of thing.

Which brings me to the particular taming of me that this week’s task involves from the Queen of Clubs.

I don’t have a system for when I “do my finances” — sort bills, check credit card statements, open post. I know you’re not surprised about this. Given the massive commitment that Counting 000’s is, you (as in YOU, not me) are probably thinking I don’t need a system … that I’m too busy sorting out my finances every week for things to fall through the cracks.

Wrong.

I’m operating without any of the habits that would make regular maintenance of my finances easy.

There’s a reason for this. I don’t respond well to “shoulds” and “musts”. Something in me rebels against what Freud called the Super Id. The inner parental voice who’s always giving the rest of me a hard time.

So my task this week is to invent a method to stay on top of my £ to-do’s that will work, that I can stick to, that won’t be like punishment. A non-oppressive routine. An angelically helpful system.

It’s probably no more complicated that I need to agree a reasonable and regular time to sit down to paperwork. But since that’s never worked before,  I’m going to take advantage of the week that the Queen is giving me to mull this one over.

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5 thoughts on “The Taming of the

  1. Hi Nat- Have you seen Brene Browns “hustle for worthiness” dvd? She talks about how we are obsessed with the “how to’s” of life…and how we already know “how to” do just about everything that we already do. Sometimes it is just getting into the practice of something, but sometimes it requires (gulp) more inner work…

    Looking forward to the outcome on this one. I will try to figure out how I can get up, get dressed in my workout clothes, eat my pre-workout breakfast, get my things in the car, and STILL not make it to the gym for my 8:30 spin class. This is the inner work for me…grrr…

    Hope all is well with you.

    Liz

  2. Hi Liz!

    Am good. Just back from weekend in Ireland for a fabulous wedding, pottering around, unpacking and doing laundry while listening to an interview with Brene (and also w/ designer Bruce Mau).

    I knew some of Brene’s work — basically the TED talk on vulnerability, but I hadn’t connected her stuff to Counting 000’s —

    The more I check her out, the more I see the connections between her topics and what I’m trying to do. I haven’t heard the DVD talk, but for those interested this is the interview I’ve been listening to. [which you can read or listen to]

    thanks for sending it in, buddy

    * * *
    http://www.cbc.ca/tapestry/episode/2011/01/16/to-err-is-human/

    Today on Tapestry we’re looking at the upside of getting it wrong. We all know that to err is human, but for some the fear of making a mistake can lead to a diminished experience of life. We’ll talk to celebrated Canadian designer Bruce Mau about the importance of making friends with failure.

    And we’ll hear from research professor Brene Brown, author of The Gifts of Imperfection. For the past decade she has been exploring the role of shame, empathy, vulnerability and authenticity, and it’s brought her a unique understanding of imperfection.

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