No, but I was tempted. My assignment for the week was to arrange a dinner party where I’d do my best to steer the conversation towards theories, fears and ideas about personal finance. But I haven’t and I can’t be bothered.
Well, I can be bothered, but I’ve decided against it on the grounds of pragmatism.
The first thing that happened is an email went flying around from a friend called N. who I had top of list for my money dinner party. Having never invited me to hers for dinner before, her email announced she now wanted to find a date to do so. The other person included in the email invite was another friend, A., who was also top of list for my money dinner party! Had N. read my blog? Was she trying to sabotage my master plan by “getting there first” with the dinner party invite?
Why were N. and A. top of my list anyway? Because there’s no way I’m inviting a bunch of friends over that are really clever with their money and completely organised about it. What’s the point in that? Well, there is some point to that … it depends on what I’m trying to achieve with the dinner party. (N. and A. don’t be offended … it’s only that you’ve both recently confessed interest in or trouble with personal finance.)
I chewed over what to do while meanwhile noticing that the dates being suggested by A. and N. for said invite were stretching further and further into the calendar year. And now that the date’s been set for December, I’ve decided not to proceed with my own dinner party at the moment. I might go ahead with it in the New Year.
No, instead I’ve come up with a different tactic … I’m going to take my pet topic and invade the dinner parties I’m already invited to with a set of questions that Old Me wouldn’t have dreamt of discussing over dinner. Not only because quizzing people about their approach to money is impertinent at best, but because as a money ostrich, such chat was often deeply traumatic for me … flooding my mind with all sorts of anxieties about stuff I hadn’t done, papers I couldn’t find, realities I couldn’t comprehend and fine print I’d overlooked.
While I haven’t done my assignment as it was originally set out, I have spent some time working out my objectives for money dinner parties and started to formulate my killer conversational openings … These I won’t yet reveal, but I’d love any replies to the questions below. And if you’ve invited me for dinner, you’ve been warned.
Questions for lovely Zeros followers:
- Which is of greater concern to you — the amount your necessities cost (e.g., rent, the bills) or the amount you tend to spend on the things you want (e.g., shoes and bags, the movies, daily coffees)
- If you could change one thing about your “money personality” (which is whatever way you understand your collection of money habits and beliefs), what would it be?